If there’s one thing in this world that I dislike more than when people don’t say “thank you” after someone tells them “bless you”, it’s definitely Relationship Goals. Lately, popular social media accounts have been posting these so-called “relationship goals”, often showing pictures of a girl getting anything from flowers to a tiffany necklace from her boyfriend. It’s not that I’m against relationships, or guys giving their girlfriends gifts to show their affection. I am, however, against the fact that it is considered a “goal” to achieve within a relationship. A relationship should NEVER be about receiving gifts, but ALWAYS about receiving ADMIRATION, and RESPECT. I can honestly tell you that I don’t expect anything more than respect, admiration, and some* affection from my future significant other. Ladies, do you really think that retweeting pictures of a boy surprising his girlfriend with a tiffany necklace and giant teddy bear is going to make your boyfriend surprise you with a tiffany necklace and giant teddy bear? If anything, that would scare your boyfriend, or potential significant other OFF.
Imagine if you were a boy, and you were dating this girl. Everything is going great, but then your girlfriend retweets a tweet depicting an unrealistic relationship goal. You don’t know why she did this. It makes you feel like you’re not good enough, like she wants you to do more than show her your affection. You get scared that you can’t provide your girlfriend with the ‘happiness’ that she so longs for, so instead of buying her the necklace and roses, you tell her that you need to stop seeing her. You feel as though you aren’t good enough, so you end things.
Now, obviously this might be a bit of a stretch, but it isn’t too far from a pending reality.
Ladies, you should never compare your relationship to anyone else’s. You shouldn’t feel like the only way to achieve happiness within a relationship is by being smothered with gifts. I bet if you took a step back from your “unhappy”, and “gift-less” relationship, you’d realize that you were truly happy with the simple care and affection and respect.
Guys, you should never feel like the only way to make your significant other happy is by showering them with gifts and imitating these ‘relationship goals’. And if your significant other isn’t happy unless you’re showering her with gifts, BREAK UP WITH HER. You deserve a woman who will appreciate you and respect you for you alone.
RELATIONSHIP GOALS ARE UNREALISTIC.JUST BE HAPPY WITH SOMEONE WHO SHOWS YOU LOVE AND AFFECTION BECAUSE IF YOU’RE NOT HAPPY WITH THAT, THEN GOOD LUCK BEING ALONE.
I mean that in the nicest way possible.